Talking to a wall

A Serpent in the course of its wanderings came into an armourer's shop. As he glided over the floor he felt his skin pricked by a nail lying there. In a rage he turned round upon it and tried to dart his fangs into it; but he could do no harm to heavy iron and had soon to give over his wrath.

It is useless attacking the insensible

Have you ever found yourself get into an argument or a debate with someone, and their ideas seemed so absurd that it only got you more upset? WOW has it happened to me so many times.

I received an email from my daughters dad (I want to call him my baby daddy so bad, but the class in me wont allow it)  a few days ago that said some mean things. Things to the tune of calling me a bitch, and stating a refusal to ever help me out financially with my daughter. The irony. Within minutes of me replying back to the email stating that he needs to get over himself, I get a midday instant message from him. "Hey Lassie (a pet name he called me when we were together), how are you? I'm going to be sending some money to you as soon as I get back to my town, I'm in Russia right now"

Of course I question him on the basis of this email. For what? Why are you even talking to me?

This summer we had a VERY tough falling out, where I came to the realization that there's no way in the world that I can call that man boy my friend. I have no desire for it at all, and just don't want the drama in my life. So the shock of him even reaching out to me for conversation was astounding to me.

He told me I was ridiculous to believe that he'd send me such a thing. That his email account was hacked and that was obviously someone just trying to make me mad....




At this point, I was boiling hot. I tried explaining to him my angle... and he didn't get it. He only laughed because in his eyes, it was just ridiculous that I'd even be upset about it. I should know him better than that. And the last thing on his mind was anything involving me and my life. I bid him adieu, wished him the best, and logged off.

Some people are so stuck in their own minds, and in their own ways, that to even try to persuade them into thinking anything else would be a complete waste of time. I'm the type of person that tries to get people to look at all sides of the spectrum. I don't make any judgment calls until I know that I've exhausted all options, and have looked at every possible benefit and consequence. (I guess this is why my career is where it is) I also like to give people the benefit of doubt in thinking that maybe, just maybe, their minds aren't on the same wavelength as mine. Thus causing the disconnect. I like to hear people out. And if I can see that what I've done is wrong, or easily misinterpreted, I apologize, and take it as constructive criticism for myself. Unfortunately, not everyone else looks at things the way I do (Oh what a perfect world we'd live in if they did). So I've established a way to figure out if what I'm doing is pointless;

1. I first pay attention to how much the said person runs on his/ her sentences. When I stop speaking, do they just fill the empty space? If so, I'll probably end it there. They're not even noticing that you've checked out, so whats the purpose of wasting your breath?
2. I try to remove myself from being an active participant and place myself as a fly on the wall. How stupid do I look arguing with this fool? What difference does it make as to whether or not he/ she gets my point? Will it change the world if I get through to them? More than likely not, so proceed to filing your nails, or watching paint dry... it will be much more meaningful.
3. I'm not going to let the conversation on the same topic exceed 5 minutes. We can agree to disagree on this one. But if they don't even wanna do that, guess who just doesn't care anymore? YUP! THIS GUY!!!
4. I try to imagine how good this debate would be on CNN. Would it be an interesting debate? Full of valuable information? Would it alter my thinking if I was watching two people have it? (On another note, nothing beats the debates had by Sarah Palin and Joe Biden... NOTHING) If I feel like I'm portraying myself as the fool, and an outsider wouldn't know the difference in us two... yeah... It's a wrap!

You've heard before to let well enough alone. So that's what I choose to do. We often give our enemies the means to our own destruction, and that's just not going to be me. So I'll say my piece. One can choose to take what I say as consideration, or not. But I can guarantee that 5 years from now, I'll still be little old me. Nobody's fool.

Unless of course my husband hacks into my email account and sends emails to my ex...