I see perfectly clear!

I talk about my friends alot. Like A LOT! And I credit it to the fact that I've got some pretty damn great people in my life. When you grow up the way that I did, it makes it tough to allow some people into your space. You try to throw up a wall, but those people that truly BELONG in your life will make their way in.

About 4 months ago, my BFF sent me this in an email:

Do you know what the relationship is between your two eyes? They blink together, they move together, they cry together. They see things together and they sleep together, BUT THEY NEVER SEE EACH OTHER... That's what friendship is. Life is lonely without friends. And whether we see each other often or not, just like a pair of eyes, NOTHING can pull us apart!

This explains us to a POINT! Her husband is in the profession where he travels alot (She blogs about all of her fun experiences, check her out here). Mix that with the fact that we're both full-time Mommies and wives, and my crazy work schedule and you get a full cooked meal of us rarely seeing each other. It sucks. It really does. For your best friend to be eons away... (Right now she lives in Australia, bka The Twilight Zone, where she's a full 16 hours ahead of us). Yeah it sucks.

But... But... (yes there's a but... a huge one too)

Anyone that knows us, knows that we still talk everyday. At awkward times indeed, but we still talk. We still laugh... we still gossip... I know everything my God daughter is doing, and she knows all the ratchedness of her God son. We skype when time permits, and we still manage to have our Lucy and Ethel moments. (Which is something I take a lot of pride in with the amount of destruction we're able to get away with LOL). The things we talk about turn our husbands faces up, and at times make them question what the hell they were thinking when they said "I do" LOL But its us! I remember in high school, my youngest sister had to be told that my BFF wasn't her REAL blood sister. She had no idea how that was possible when she looked like us, she talked like us, and hell she was always around... (she actually took that pretty tough) So, yes... I miss her... but I wouldn't trade her or our lives for the world.

Then there's those friends of mine that I've got here... here as in the contiguous U.S. ... Oh boy! My big brothers. After my BFF sent that to me, I forwarded it over to them. The quick response was "Yesss! TEAM 20/20!!!" We all have these different lives. We all have our own stories. But we love each other TO DEATH! We go days and even weeks without talking at times... we go at each others throats... they deal with my attitude... they tell me I'm stupid when I'm giving my husband a hard time. That perspective from a man is always needed, and boy do I have some nut jobs...

One of them thinks he's a rapper. I'm his hugest critic, but also his hugest fan. So I enjoy giving him shit from time to time... He's still not as hot as Shabba Ranks, but he's getting there. Check out his mix tape.

Then I have a REALLY whack job of a brother. You're guaranteed to get a laugh out of him in every conversation. Don't believe me? Read his blog especially if you're a sports fan.

Then my poet. I can honestly say that I talk to him everyday, but see him way less. (He's doing his thing in another state.) He's FINALLY found his Mrs. Right... YUP!!!!!! I said it... I put it out there... it's DONE! (Sorry bro, love you a million :-)) I'm happy to see him truly happy now... it's GREAT! And it doesn't hurt that she's a good friend of mine from grammar school! He blogs ( true music fan) and is also a guest blogger/ poet for the bluemountain.com blog.

I also have a teddy bear of a brother that is the SWEETEST man I've ever known (next to my hubby of course) He doesn't blog as much as he used to. He stays rather low key... checks things out from a distance... but pays close attention to everything.

I can go on and on... but that email sent something out to me so clear... it makes me think of how when I was in my last relationship, I got so absorbed in it, and believing everything that he said, that I cut out alot of people. People that shouldn't have been cut out. Some people moved on (understandably) but some were right there when I needed it. Those are my two eyes. Those that no matter how often we talk or see each other, they'll always have my back. Always be there...

and most importantly, they know that the feeling is reciprocated.